4 Things That Can Bring You JOMO
A little message pops on your smartphone.
An app that tracks your screen usage startles you out of complacence.
“What? I’ve spent 5.2 hours of screen time this week, up from 4.2 last week?”
Fear of missing out, or FOMO, often drives our social media habits that lead to so much screen time. But trading FOMO for JOMO, the joy of missing out, may mean more time spent embracing pleasurable things — yoga stretches, a documentary on bees, a board game with the kids, or relaxing before bed — rather than your phone.
“JOMO is the new black,” says Erika del Pozo, founder of Joy Energy Time, which provides companies with continuing education surrounding burnout. “More and more, we are prioritizing and protecting our energy and being intentional about how we live our lives.”
4 Things to Let Go for More Contentment and Satisfaction
- Stop replying instantly to non-urgent messages. Sometimes it’s OK to take a day or two to reply to an email or hours to answer texts. The joy of being untethered from technology is almost palpable. Psychologically, it’s important to switch off since we weren’t designed to be on call around the clock. Amazing as technology is, it can make us feel pressured to always be connected. Non-urgent communication can wait, especially if you are in the middle of dinner, family time or relaxation.
- End the 24/7 news updates. “I quit watching news and I absolutely enjoy missing out on it,” says Cynthia Brown, founder and editor-in-chief at Only Top Reviews, a guide and product review site. Brown says no part of her life depends on knowing the latest sound bite from a politician. If there’s groundbreaking news, someone will tell her. “It leaves me with more time and energy to work on my business and spend time with my son,” she says. Or, you can choose to only subscribe to one news aggregator site that pulls in the top news, like Katie Couric’s Wake Up Call daily e-newsletter.
- Say no. Don’t commit to that not-so-friendly co-worker’s baby shower so you’ll be seen as a team player. “I lived the entirety of my 20s with FOMO and could never put my finger on why I was so depleted,” says del Pozo. If you’re saying yes when you want to say no, you’re leaking mental energy, which causes fatigue, stress, and anxiety.
- Decrease social media time. Missing a tweet or an Instagram story doesn’t matter in the long term. Think of how much time you could free up reading fewer posts. Jane Scudder, certified life coach and motivational speaker, says she encourages clients to seek clarity about their core values, like family, health or career. Explore what those areas really mean to you. Consider what you’re spending time on and if it honors those values. What your BFF cooked for dinner or what Aunt Sally did on her Cabo vacation probably doesn’t.
The things you respond to, watch, say yes to, and spend time on contribute to your emotional and spiritual health. If yours could use a boost, try to incorporate more JOMO habits.
After all, “I wish I spent more time on my phone,” said no one ever.
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