How to Share a Bed and Still Get a Good Night’s Sleep

Tossing and turning, snoring and conflicting sleeping schedules are some of the common issues that bed partners often struggle with.

What can couples do to sleep better together?

Noise control

Different wake-up times and using alarm clocks that end up waking the other partner can hamper a couple’s harmony, says Yelena Chernyak, a psychologist at the Indiana University Health Neuroscience Center. Some of Chernyak’s patients have reported success using silent wearable devices that vibrate when a person needs to wake up. “This is much less intrusive to your partner’s sleep habits, if they don’t need to wake up at the same time,” she says.

A white noise machine can help drown out a partner’s snoring. You can also try an adjustable base that allows you to raise your partner’s head and reduce snoring.

Space issues

If you feel that you end up fighting for every bit of bed space every night, you might consider getting a larger bed.

“Some people love king-sized beds because they like a lot of space in the bed,” says psychotherapist Stan Tatkin, the author of “Wired for Love.” But, interestingly, there are also those who are not too keen on giant bed sizes. “There are some other people who really need to have some kind of physical touch in the evening in order for them to sleep well,” Tatkin says. “For those people we generally recommend queen-sized beds because they are large enough to separate but not so large that people can get ‘lost’ in the bed.”

Different comfort preferences

It is rare for partners to have exactly the same preferences when it comes to bedroom temperature or mattress firmness, says Terry Cralle, a certified clinical sleep educator and author of “Sleeping Your Way to the Top: How to Get the Sleep You Need to Succeed.” “But the mattress industry itself has come a long way to help couples sleep better together,” she says. “I am really excited about the new options in the industry.”